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by Elena Neitlich

After interviewing for an exciting employment opportunity, the young candidate was rejected, “When I asked for real feedback, the interviewer told me that although my job skills and education were a good fit, some of my table manners raised a red flag. The position entails many client dinners and I guess I had a few bad habits that they saw at meals during the interview process.” The candidate continued, “I would have loved to have been taught proper table manners by my parents. I feel at a real disadvantage, and I am quite frankly, embarrassed by my lack of manners.”
Sadly the situation the interviewee faced above is not uncommon. Competition is fierce for good jobs and seats in good universities. There are many more highly qualified applicants than positions. Polished table skills are a needed asset and social skill in this competitive culture.

Every parent wants to launch their children into the world with the skills they need to succeed. Equipping children with good table manners is an important lesson that all parents should want to give to their children. Using good table manners allows the focus to be placed on the conversation not on the act of eating. Having good table manners gives people the confidence to participate in any dining situation with ease.

Start introducing manners lessons slowly to very young children and add more refined lessons as the child matures. Consistency and repetition are very important when teaching children. Parents will have to reinforce the rules time and time again until good practices become habit. Remind children whenever a slip in manners occurs but don’t scold or nag.

Practicing good manners daily will eventually lead to mastery and manners will become second nature. As children develop fine motor skills, their use of utensils and glassware will improve. With constant repetition, by the early teen years, kids will have built up a comprehensive collection of manners which parents need only fine-tune for teens to be capable of attending the most formal of occasions.

For the well being of the children, even busy families should find the time to sit down together each evening for a meal. The most simple of meals, including take-out fare, are fine choices. Make sure that the food is transferred and/or served in serving dishes and that the family uses dinnerware. If dinner is impossible on certain evenings, families can sit down later in the evening for dessert; make sure to set the table and use dinnerware and utensils. Teaching children the proper way to set the table is a perfect start for introducing the use of utensils, plates and glasses. Explain where each utensil is placed, what it is for, when it is used, and the correct way to hold it. Young children love being given a responsibility and will happily and proudly set the table each evening. Put placemats, napkins, silverware, plates, cups and bowls within reach of children to facilitate easy table setting. A good idea in homes with small children is to purchase nice quality melamine dishes so when plates drop they will not break.

Children do not learn proper table manners overnight. It takes years of repetition and consistent training to refine their skills. Parents have eighteen years to help shape their child’s table manners so there is plenty of time to patiently work with them. Expect lots of errors and missteps, use gentle guidance, never scold or embarrass, just kindly correct and continue eating.

If parents begin teaching manners when their children are toddlers, by the time the kids are in kindergarten they will have mastery of the basics.

The following is a list of table manners that your child should have a good grasp of by age six.

• Wash their hands and face before sitting down to the table.
• Sit down in their proper seat and put their napkin in their lap.
• Wait to begin eating until everyone is seated and has been served.
  Many families wait until an adult gives permission to start eating.
• Stay seated in their seats without wiggling in their chairs, going under the table, or getting up and down.
• Say, “Excuse Me,” and ask permission to leave the table.
• Elbows do not belong on the table.
• Mouths should stay closed while chewing and pieces should be bite sized.
• “May I please” and “Thank you” should be used when children would like food and never reach across the table.
• Participate in the conversation during dinner and no interruptions when other people are talking.
• Slurping, burping, squealing, singing, humming are all sounds that are not to be made at the table.
• It is never kind or polite to make negative comments about what is being served for dinner.
• Before getting up at the end of the meal say, “May I please be excused?”
• Ask if adults would like them to clear their dinner plate.
• Thank the cook.

Preparing children for adulthood starts the moment the baby is placed in the arms of the mother. Teaching children to use good table manners is a wonderful gift that will serve them well throughout their entire lives. Parents will be proud that their children are using the good manners that they have taught them, and more importantly children will be polished and refined and capable of being comfortable in any situation.

More details about teaching children manners here. Elena Neitlich is the owner and CEO of Moms on Edge, LLC. Her company designs, manufactures and sells children’s behavioral products. The mission of Moms on Edge is to promote peace, quiet and good behavior and help alleviate the stress parents can feel as they navigate their children through the tough stages of childhood. Elena is the mother of Noah (5) and Seth (2) and is committed to raising really great people.

by Morgan Hamilton

A behavior chart, also called a behavior modification chart can be used in classrooms and hospitals for measurement the behavior of the children. Behavior charts are made according to a program which has to be achieved. If it is achieved, the children have done well. If not, there were some problems in their behavior and class activity. Behavior charts are basically done for the child. Children can acquire attentive attitude towards their own behavior and can improve their activity in class, when they look at the results of their classmates, who have done better results.

Behavior chart means that the children pay attention to their way of doing things. If you grab the children’s attention, you already win the battle. When they start to pay attention to their activity, they also start to take care of their behavior. Competitiveness between the children is very strong: if the kids see that someone is doing well on the behavior chart, they will try to be like him/her.

Behavior charts can be a little scary at the beginning. Some children are really nervous and if they are presented with an evidence of how they behaved, and if they are given a place at a top 30, they really get anxiety problems. That’s why you shouldn’t be so strict with them,and explain to them that behavior charts are something meant to help them improve themselves. Tell them they don’t need to feel stressed at being assessed like that. A behavior chart provides them only with a necessary information about how to improve themselves, so they should pay attention to it and not get offended by the results.

Some behavior charts can lead to rewarding the kids that did well. This can be very motivating for them , but excruciating for the others. That’s why the rewards should be neutral. In some schools the rewards are points which they can spend in a token economy on various treats. They can get extra recess, treats, or the right to use the best toys. When a group has collected certain number of points, they get a pizza party, or another group party, which is considered the cherry on the top of the behavior chart. When you put a child in a group, he or she starts feeling part of it, and gains as many points as he/she can. That’s why group work is considered the best when it comes to behavior.

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